tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post8267306337964323033..comments2024-03-11T03:18:15.067-04:00Comments on Olive Out: Family FuneralsOlivehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04562775041134498313noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-1130475124935082282013-01-19T09:29:01.515-05:002013-01-19T09:29:01.515-05:00So proud of you for
the respect that you
showed yo...So proud of you for<br />the respect that you<br />showed your aunt by<br />overcoming your <br />uncomfortable feelings<br />about being there.<br /><br />It took me a long time<br />to go back to the town<br />where I went to high school.<br />I've exorcised those ghosts,<br />finally, but that first time<br />back ~ yowzer.<br /><br />Hugs & love to you.<br /><br />xo SuzannePrivet and Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09384567378252265965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-25910570866179020542013-01-19T01:10:19.992-05:002013-01-19T01:10:19.992-05:00Sound like a very wretched time for you! I'm ...Sound like a very wretched time for you! I'm so sorry. Yes, I seem to visiting a few ghosts of my own recently. Yes, it's haunting. No pun intended. Love you. You are beautiful!White Lace and Promiseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17597921659943106119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-12157368355943971672013-01-18T08:57:05.227-05:002013-01-18T08:57:05.227-05:00PS and I am very, very glad you have Joe. PS and I am very, very glad you have Joe. Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03418200517338216765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-6072014993363474142013-01-18T08:56:37.383-05:002013-01-18T08:56:37.383-05:00Wow - I am glad you made it through - God helps us...Wow - I am glad you made it through - God helps us carry on and so does family - I am glad you and your sister still talk. Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03418200517338216765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-24197778024576100742013-01-16T22:26:51.651-05:002013-01-16T22:26:51.651-05:00I can feel your pain also. May God bless and comfo...I can feel your pain also. May God bless and comfort you as only he can.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02049996909414471501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-30673407075348143552013-01-16T19:04:51.626-05:002013-01-16T19:04:51.626-05:00That sounds so stressful, Olive. I am glad you ar...That sounds so stressful, Olive. I am glad you are back home, and that you have Joe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-43526740318443867532013-01-16T14:56:22.892-05:002013-01-16T14:56:22.892-05:00I'm glad it's over and you are home again....I'm glad it's over and you are home again. Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834682329952369721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-26749139105860788952013-01-16T11:46:55.952-05:002013-01-16T11:46:55.952-05:00Olive, I surely hear your heart about all of this...Olive, I surely hear your heart about all of this...I do not know what we will do when my Daddy dies or how I will be able to handle all the drama associated with dysfunctional families..when my sister in law died, her funeral was extremely hard to endure...we were threatened and shunned, and on and on..it is sad that families can be so hurtful..<br />Love,<br />Monahidden art of homemakinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08776454203241599073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-65198034857897485222013-01-16T11:17:48.369-05:002013-01-16T11:17:48.369-05:00I hear you on many levels!! I think we've deal...I hear you on many levels!! I think we've dealt with a handful of that stuff. Hard. Glad it is over for you and I hope you can hang on to those hairs! :) I have the gift of probably 4 heads of hair and will be glad to make a donation or three to you anytime :) <br />Hugggsss!!!!PCovi https://www.blogger.com/profile/04908877691167450198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-19855181173177873332013-01-15T22:35:50.379-05:002013-01-15T22:35:50.379-05:00I believe that your Aunt would have been very prou...I believe that your Aunt would have been very proud of you and your sister. You did the RIGHT thing; maybe not the most comfortable one, but the RIGHT one. I have a similar situation with a stepchild who has turned her husband and married children against us and the rest of our family. It's always much easier to do the right thing, and we do. Sadly, they do not.<br />That said, God bless you and your sister and your aunt's caregivers. Be secure and happy in the fact that you did what was right, and that your Aunt smiles.<br />NancyNancy @ The Headmistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01037891417609496378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-79626679393417386482013-01-15T22:13:59.618-05:002013-01-15T22:13:59.618-05:00Reading this and hurting in my heart for you and y...Reading this and hurting in my heart for you and your sister, I thought of that line from "Hope Floats"---`Childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to overcome.` My prayer is that you will be able to close the door on those ghosts that continue to haunt you. The baggage they bring is theirs to carry---not yours. Don't let them steal your happiness or your peace of mind. You, my darling lady, are stronger and wiser than them. God bless you, your sister and those two ladies who took such care with your aunt. They might not get credit here on earth, but I'm sure they did in the better place a'waiting in the sky.<br />Prayers and blessings,<br />Debtrash talkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17508579521854913297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-48732953067670544992013-01-15T21:54:35.483-05:002013-01-15T21:54:35.483-05:00So sorry for your loss and sorry your heart is hur...So sorry for your loss and sorry your heart is hurting! <br />Blessings to you sweet friend...Cindy @ Dwellings-The Heart of Your Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02897883854642097143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-22885462898866037592013-01-15T20:15:47.652-05:002013-01-15T20:15:47.652-05:00So sorry to hear that your situation made you so u...So sorry to hear that your situation made you so uncomfortable. I think we all know people in our lives that make us feel that way. We must remember though that it isn't wise to hang on to bad feelings. It poisons us. It is better to let go and move on. I often remind myself of that whenever I find myself in front of someone that angered me in the past. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of knowing that they still have control over me. By harbouring ill feelings that is letting them have control over you. Easier said that done though!! So sorry for your loss too.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16938178631385143773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-1294032417052649342013-01-15T20:01:39.697-05:002013-01-15T20:01:39.697-05:00So sorry for your loss, Olive. I'm glad you d...So sorry for your loss, Olive. I'm glad you didn't let that hurtful person drive you away from the funeral. You are a much better person than he.<br />Peace and blessings to you!Grandma Barb's This and Thathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06639649601385700411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-63873898852042000932013-01-15T19:57:50.222-05:002013-01-15T19:57:50.222-05:00Oh Olive, what a difficult time that was for you, ...Oh Olive, what a difficult time that was for you, and evidently for your sister too. How we handle those encounters that are so tough for us really show how we've grown. It sounds like you handled this very well. Hoping you find peace.Cranberry Morninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10758563068581561194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-56826820536753752722013-01-15T19:37:26.887-05:002013-01-15T19:37:26.887-05:00The commenters above have said so much, so beautif...The commenters above have said so much, so beautifully. I will only add that I felt as if I were there with you reading this and hurt for you. We never know the troubles another blog friend has and It warms my heart when I see others reaching out to you now. God bless you.Dewenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07330797553600987145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-32328736279929360032013-01-15T19:32:30.684-05:002013-01-15T19:32:30.684-05:00I know how you feel! Isn't it so painful to h...I know how you feel! Isn't it so painful to have to be around those who are so hurtful/hateful!! We can't always go back home, and sometimes that's a good thing! Take care! Thinking of you and your sister.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04098902223786529522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-39980203064222572182013-01-15T19:13:10.484-05:002013-01-15T19:13:10.484-05:00Olive, I know the grace of God was evident in you ...Olive, I know the grace of God was evident in you at that funeral even though you may not have felt like being gracious. Thankfully you didn't have to go in your own strength to face all the hurt and painful memories.<br />Mary Alicechateau chichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11861535167732654354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-90765270985290258492013-01-15T17:29:34.416-05:002013-01-15T17:29:34.416-05:00Olive, so sorry to hear of the death of your aunt ...Olive, so sorry to hear of the death of your aunt and even more sorry to hear that attending her funeral was so difficult for so many reasons. I think a lot of people can relate to what you have said and understand. Family issues take perspective and as a reader of your series, I believe you should take as long as you need to get that perspective, if you ever can. Sometimes it is best to just move forward and concentrate on the present and future, not necessarily forgetting the past, but being a better person because of it - I think you've got that part just right. (hug) AnnThe Boston Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16211110867604264641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-85403253059529389002013-01-15T17:16:15.106-05:002013-01-15T17:16:15.106-05:00Olive every family has it's share of skeletons...Olive every family has it's share of skeletons! I am so sorry for your loss, family funerals are always difficult! Thinking of you my friend:)ℳartina @ Northern Nestinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03492503626430263274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-46390763560011155182013-01-15T17:13:36.963-05:002013-01-15T17:13:36.963-05:00So sorry you had to go through all of that...my fa...So sorry you had to go through all of that...my family is very dysfunctional, but I'm lucky enough to have a close relationship with my 2 sisters...Take care...look to the future...you are in a better place now!Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08063930401794527705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-34725546486908630532013-01-15T17:00:04.242-05:002013-01-15T17:00:04.242-05:00Family funerals are difficult at the best of times...Family funerals are difficult at the best of times, but I think that you behaved in a gracious manner, and I am sure that your Great-Aunt would have been proud of you.<br />I did not realise that you had turned grey so quickly, but you know what, you really suit grey hair. It is very becoming to have a young face framed with some grey.Rosemaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03814070177137076757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-17482560881494799982013-01-15T16:55:36.487-05:002013-01-15T16:55:36.487-05:00Oh, my. Funerals are hard enough without the extr...Oh, my. Funerals are hard enough without the extra baggage they can bring. Glad you were able to see your sister and that you two stayed and honored your Great-Aunt. Maybe, if you're lucky, you'll never have to see that other person ever again. Pam Kesslerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14830005036551331029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-55859261785267289772013-01-15T16:10:16.570-05:002013-01-15T16:10:16.570-05:00Funerals in my family can be very dramatic when ce...Funerals in my family can be very dramatic when certain family members are forced to deal with each other. I have taken the stand to just ignore them and honor the person who has died. I think you and your sister were right to unite for support.Donna Wilkeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12985036983888082763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208458117818248970.post-82666349118535455972013-01-15T14:07:50.771-05:002013-01-15T14:07:50.771-05:00I am part of a dysfunctional family. I hear you.I am part of a dysfunctional family. I hear you.Carlene @ Organized Clutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13025605992107688229noreply@blogger.com